What I learned from Planning a Wedding
What a better way to celebrate 5 months of marriage, than sharing 5 thing I learned from planning my wedding. I’m not going to go super in to detail on how I planned my wedding but what I learned from it.
Planning a wedding was exciting, overwhelming and stressful. I learned a lot from planning my own wedding, outside the superficial and material items. There’s actually quite a lot that goes into planning a wedding day, so don’t try and do it alone. I’m pretty independent and like things my way but without the help I received it wouldn’t have been possible.
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5 Things I learned
Don’t Stress the Small Stuff
Here’s a great mantra while planning: “Don’t Stress the Small Stuff”. Between the color of tablecloths, deciding whether to rent or buy table cloths, which company to go through, do we even need table linens. Deciding on table linens can be a big deal, but can also be overwhelming. “Don’t Stress the Small Stuff”.
I remember when we decided to buy table linens from online, we had to decide on ivory but the ivory didn’t look ivory, they went on sale then they weren’t on sale, did we want satin table runners or whatever else table runners?
I was too worried about the damn table cloths! Eventually it was all fine and worked out great but I shouldn’t have worried so much about the colors and the material etc etc. It’s not worth it. You know why?
No one is going to give a damn about what color your table cloths are and if they match your colors perfectly. Your guests really only, should, care about your marraige and celebrating with you.
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Don’t Compare Your Wedding
Most of my ideas came from Pinterest and a lot of DIY projects. Pinterest can be dangerous though, because I compared my wedding to what I dreamt of on Pinterest to what it would actually be.
To be honest I didn’t want a huge spectacular detailed wedding, I wanted simplistic and I wanted it to resonate Kyle and I’s relationship and style: simple, vintage and a little country (obviously since it was in a barn)
After my wedding, I’ll be honest, I started comparing mine to other peoples. “Why didn’t I think of that” or “Man I should have done that”. Omg is this so bad. It’s really bad of me, but I did it and I regret ever comparing MY wedding to someone elses!
It might happen to you and that’s okay but remember it’s YOUR wedding and it’s about YOU and your singificant other. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks it matters that it’s a day that you celebrated the life between you and your new spouse. Of course the glitz and glamour of the decor and venue are exciting to showcase but if you find that you’re comparing your wedding- it’s not about the material items.
Being a Bridezilla isn’t Worth it
I’ll be the first to admit I can get really grumpy easily, especially when things don’t go accordingly. I really tried my best not to lash out at anyone because it’s really not worth it. There were probably two moments during my wedding day that I snapped, I had to step aside take a breath and relax. Drink a (some) mimosas, have a laugh with your girlfriends and sneak a cupcake if you must.Drink a (some) mimosas, have a laugh with your girlfriends and sneak a cupcake if you must.Click To Tweet
After I was able to acknolwedge I was frustrated I just moved on, and went about the day as planned. I’m really glad that I didn’t turn into a bridezilla but it does happen because your wedding day is a big deal.
But, don’t overstep the role of a bride and burn any bridges. Your wedding day is also being surrounded by loved ones and those who want to support you. Anyone who is there with you on your wedding day, should, want to be there to support and love you so don’t lash out.
You find Out who Is really there for you
Creating a guest list was one of the most daunting tasks, and when you invite someone you think would want to celebrate your marriage with you is unnerving. Because if someone doesn’t show up or makes an excuse you really do find out where your relatioship stands. It’s something you come to find out as you grow older, is who is really there for you.
It’s a touchy subject but it’s just a part of life. Now if someone can’t make it because they’re having a baby or lives across the world that’s completely understandable. But when someone simply doesn’t show merely because they don’t want to, that’s okay. That just means you’ve found out where your relationship stands.
However, the people that did show up and did come are those who truly support and love us. They are the true friends and the long lasting friendship I know I will have. They say as we get older our friendship circle grows smaller, which is true. Now, I wouldn’t confront anyone over this. Especially don’t hold onto who didn’t show up, and remember who did because that is what matters.
Marriage is even better
Beyond the wedding planning, the decor, and the dress above all else marriage has been better than my wedding day. Getting married, standing in front of others, dancing the night away – that was all the easy stuff.
Marriage isn’t a ‘thing’ it’s a relationship, and it’s something you build on every day. It’s not easy but it’s fun. It’s weird because marriage for Kyle and I didn’t change much. It did change my last name, but it changed the aspect our relationship.
Getting married was the best day of my life, but celebrating our marriage every day is even better.
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