there are some things I want you to know. First I am not going to generalize and say that I know you personally, because we are all different, right? We all have different personalities, hopes, dreams, and aspirations. However, I think we can agree that our twenties can be trying times, and we often struggle. They say our twenties is when we ‘discover ourselves’.
It’s nearing the end of another year, and most of us might be planning out our new year resolutions. You might be thinking ‘this is it, this will be the year that I _____” or “This year I will change _____ to become ____” While resolutions and goal planning are great ways to ring in the new year, don’t forget that who you are, now, is already amazing. And you’re probably doing a lot better than you think you are.
So here are some things I want you to know:
It is okay to take naps
Let’s be honest, one of these days we might not be able to sleep in past 5 am. So take advantage of any time you do get to sleep in and take naps. If you have some downtime and you’re exhausted TAKE A NAP. I promise it won’t be the end of the world if you enjoy a cat nap or even a 2-hour nap.
We constantly busy ourselves, we’re on the go 24/7, and we try to keep up with going out all the time. So do yourself a favor, and enjoy your guiltless nap.
It is okay not to check off your to-do list
Do you have a written or mental to-do list? Maybe you have both, and if you’re like me you tend to have to-do lists in 800 different places. Either way, our list of things we need to do can add up. Between working a full-time job, to finishing college courses, to student loans, to housing so on and so on, don’t think you’re Wonderwoman. I mean who wouldn’t want to be Wonderwoman? But I’m sure even she doesn’t check off everything on her to-do-list.
I promise it’s not the end of the world, give yourself a break once a while!
It is okay not please everyone
As children, especially for me, it’s so easy to want to please everyone. But as we get older and circle of friends grows smaller, you will not please everyone. Seriously, there will be at least one person you won’t please, no matter the decision or situation.
Whether it’s the degree you choose, the career you have, the lifestyle you live, your aspirations- whatever IT is, don’t NOT do it because you won’t please everyone.
I used to really care about what others thought of me and my actions but realized the only person that I needed to please was myself. In the end, no matter the decision or situation, you have to live with that. So if you are okay knowing that, then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Just do you.
You Don’t Have to Know what to do with your life, just yet
Our twenties are the times to discover ourselves, for some of us we are attending college or just finished our degrees. The assumption is right after graduation you should land yourself a big-time job in your field, and that is what you are supposed to do.
But is it really what you want? Are you really passionate about that job you just landed? If so, good for you. But it is okay to say I still don’t know what I want to do with my life.
Let’s face it, we’re young. As as a period of self-discovery, we don’t have to settle for our careers just yet. Take some time to do some soul-searching, and don’t settle because it’s what you have to do.
It is okay to do something because you want to do it. It’s easy to do what others want you to do, or expect you to do. For once, be selfish and do something that is going to bring you joy. If others can’t accept it, then so be it. Don’t follow others and their expectations, take your own path. Be bold, be daring, and be selfish.
Stop Comparing Yourself
We are guilty of this, and so am I. It’s so easy nowadays to continuously compare our physical appearances, successes, and abilities with others. Truth is, I think what makes everyone beautiful is how we are all unique. We all define success in different ways, and we have special abilities.
So stop looking at yourself and thinking “I’m too skinny, I’m too fat, I wish this, I wish that…” Because you’re never going to love your body if you hate it for all its imperfections. You’ll never think you’re successful if you measure your success in competition. Don’t compare someone else’s skills to your own, we all have unique skills and abilities. I guarantee that
Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
Comfort zones are a safe place because we know it and it’s routine. It’s scary to face your fears and make yourself uncomfortable. It doesn’t have to be a big step outside of your comfort zone, and it can be something small. Taking that small step outside of your comfort zone is where we grow.
Take it from me, I have really been pushed out of my comfort zone. Meeting new people I’ve never met from around the world in Thailand, having to do things on my own in another country, and doing things people may not agree with. It may seem awkward and scary at first, but once you step outside that comfort zone I guarantee it won’t be as bad as you think.
Do one thing every day that scares you.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
The last thing I want to tell you: Don’t doubt yourself, follow your heart, and just be you. Embrace your imperfections, live in the moment, and enjoy your twenties. Oh- and don’t take life to seriously.
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