Choosing a wedding dress for your big day is a big deal. People may try to talk it down, and say ‘oh it’s just for one day’ but as a bride, it is a really big deal. Of course, the dress does not signify your beauty, but it’s an emphasis on your personality and a symbol of your beautiful day.
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My Wedding Dress Mishap
My wedding dress experience wasn’t a pleasant one. I will admit something that I haven’t outwardly expressed it, except to my husband, I look back at my wedding dress and wish I wouldn’t go with something else. Okay, now I know what you’re thinking ‘WHAT!’
Let me tell you about why.. We got engaged at the end of July and I scheduled my dress appointment in September at Davids Bridal. Being from Topeka, I figured why not it’s the only wedding dress shop hear, I didn’t want to spend a lot a boutique so I settled for starting there.
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With me, I had my dad, grandma, mother-in-law, and three of my bridesmaids. I tried on I think maybe 5 or 6 dresses and ended up falling in love with the one I wore on my wedding day. I had the expectation that I would get something with lace and tight fitting. But I ended up with a ball gown! Who would have thought?
So full of excitement and glee, we purchased that dress that very day to be ordered in. They told me it would be in around December. I was ecstatic. Then December rolled around and Kyle was with me, so he stayed in the car while I went to go try on my dress that just arrived, I couldn’t wait!
As soon as I put it on and looked in the mirror I was horrified. I looked at the tag of the dress and it was ordered in special as ‘extra long’. I am petite- 4’9″ to be exact. So needless to say I was swimming in like 4 extra feet of tulle. My emotions were horrified, pissed, and just overall upset. The consultants didn’t make it any better, by giggling and not treating it professionally. The consultant when I came for the first time accidentally ordered it in extra length. I get it people make mistakes.
However, I specifically asked at my appointment that any dress I tried on, be available in petite so. I didn’t have to make 1000x alterations. Well low and behold, this dress actually didn’t come in petite. The manager apologized, of course, told me that they had to reorder it and that it would be in by February. Needless to say, I was livid.
I called my dad extremely upset, and we had to speak to the manager about comping extra alterations as I was told it would be ordered in the petite size. She ensured me she made notes that when we did alterations they would comp my alterations, and originally I wasn’t going to get my alterations done by them. Since they told me they would comp me, I decided to go with them for my alterations. Knowing that yes I’d have to pay for them to take off the length, but we had to literally cut my dress in half to raise the top part of the dress since it was so long on my midsection. Well they ended up taking more off the midsection that I wanted, and it’s not like they could glue it back on.
So fast forward through 3+ alterations appointments, the whole experience put a horrible taste in my mouth. I wish I would have gone elsewhere for a dress or given the option to choose otherwise. The second alteration appointment I went to the back of my dress was crooked where the dress was. SO much was done to my dress, I lost all anticipation and excitement about loving my dress.
Of course, everyone kept telling me they loved my dress, it looked great on me, and all those things. But still in the back of my mind I just had a horrible experience, and just didn’t love it as much as I had when I first tried on my dress and felt that ‘aha’ moment.
Coming from a bride who had a horrible experience let I offer you some advice on choosing your dream dress, in hopes that your dress is, what you want and it’s all that you dreamed of.Tips for choosing your wedding dress- it's okay not to doubt your decision, and you'll know when it's 'the one'.Click To Tweet
Tips for Choosing a Wedding Dress
Make a couple of appointments and don’t settle for the first appointment
Research your options in your area, for bridal stores. Make sure to read reviews on the stores, and contact the store beforehand. This is something I wish I would have done is make appointments in places outside of my town! So I recommend finding a store that will fit your needs, and discuss what you’re looking for in a dress with the consultant beforehand.
Bring a handful or a couple of people to your initial appointment
Bringing too many people to your first appointment can be overwhelming, depending on everyone’s personalities. Bring only the people whose opinion you truly value. It will be easy for someone else’s opinion to hinder your own. The fewer people is more valuable to your decision. If you have a handful of dresses you really loved, or you’ve found the one bring the others to the second fitting!
Don’t feel like you would be hurting anyone’s feelings by not bringing them to your first appointment. Trying on wedding dresses is an exciting and emotional experience, share it with the ones who matter.
Ensure that the bridal consultant understand what you want out of a dress
This is soooo important. Having a consultant that truly understands what vision you have for your dress is key. Make sure to explain to them your personality, your style, and what type of wedding your having. They should be able to pick up a handful of dresses that suite what you’re looking for. Sometimes you don’t even go for the style you thought you wanted, and veer for a totally different style.
It’s okay to know at the first appointment
Some brides think they need to keep shopping and trying on dresses to validate the first dress they found to be ‘the one’. It’s okay if you find the dress you love the first appointment! Trust me, you will know when you find the one you’re in love with. Can you picture yourself walking down the aisle to your fiance in this dress?
By trying on more dresses you will only confuse yourself and it can be super frustrating. So don’t think that you’re settling by going with the first dress you felt was the one. Trust your instinct.
Consider extra costs
When deciding on a dress and factoring in your budget, don’t forget to account for any extra costs. That would include a veil, jewelry, a belt and any alterations to be done.
Don’t Doubt your Decision
In my situation, I kept rethinking my dress, and kept thinking ‘it’s too late to find something else’. In the end, it was all okay. I was nervous to put my dress on for my wedding day thinking I would be a mess. I actually ended up putting the dress on and felt like a bride, and thought ‘this is the dress’. Although my experience wasn’t pleasant in the end I felt beautiful.
Things to consider when making your first dress appointment
- Bring ideas and photos so the consultant has an idea of what style you like.
- Try on styles you wouldn’t choose because they might actually end up being the one you go with.
- Consider the type of shoes you’ll be wearing- heels or flats?
- Account for the weather- will it be hot or cold?
- Don’t forget to account for the venue, especially if you have an outdoor wedding.
- Will you be wearing your hair up or down? Does it matter to you?
- Are you going to wear a veil? You don’t have to decide right away but consider if you want to or not.
So, in the end, all that matters is that the dress makes you feel like a bride, you feel beautiful, it fits your personality, and it’s comfortable. Because when it comes down to it, it really doesn’t matter what others think it’s how you feel that makes the difference.
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