Do you believe in New Year Resolutions?
It’s a New Year, babes, and most everyone is deciding on their resolutions for the year. New year, new you? Nah, I don’t believe in that. While I think it’s important to set goals for yourself and your dreams, I think resolutions don’t seem to stick. Not for me anyways. Every year I seem to have the same resolutions with no follow through.
I say I am going to get healthy, a common New Year resolution, and you see that gyms are packed more than ever. I decide to start consistently working out again, meal prepping, and doing all the things to ‘get healthy’. But soon enough this resolution I set for myself plummets, and I find myself binging on french fries, sweets, and cheeseburgers. I’d say to myself ‘life is too short to not enjoy a cheeseburger’.
While this statement is something I thoroughly believe in, still, there are reasons why resolutions don’t work, don’t seem to stick, and fail.
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Reasons why resolutions don’t work:
If you truly believe in the resolution and changing yourself for the better, you must be committed. So if you say that you want to work out, you need to be committed to making a change. Things won’t just happen on there own, unfortunately. The thing is we tell ourselves, ‘I need to start eating better’ or ‘I need to start working out’, but do you know why?If you truly believe in the resolution and changing yourself for the better, you must be committed. Click To Tweet
There should be a reason behind your resolution, and without one, you probably won’t have the motivation or commitment to sticking to it. Because in the end no one is forcing you to make this change, so the only person that’s stopping you- is you.
Not changing lifestyle or habits
With most resolutions whether it be working out, eating better, going to church, less time on the internet- you have to change your current habits and lifestyle. Most people think they can just attain a resolution without changing their current lifestyle. The issue is, for example, if you say you want to start eating better, overall you need to start leading a healthy lifestyle.
This could mean changing the places you shop for groceries, asking your household to make the change with you, and stop habits like grabbing a shake after work. These little habits that we don’t recognize because they are so routine, must be changed in order for you to attain that resolution.
If your habit is to lay in bed for an hour scrolling through your phone before bed, you have to change that routine and habit in order to achieve your resolution. This could mean placing your phone away from reach when you get into bed.
You need a why
Again, it all comes back to having a reason behind these lifestyle changes. You have to recognize your why in these resolutions if they are to actually be achieved. I believe a ‘why’ is the driving force between anything we do. Sometimes when I decide to make a change or would like to, I always think but why?
What I do believe in
So instead of resolutions, I believe in mantras or a statement word. Just a short little mantra, or a simple word, can be super empowering. Essentially this mantra or statement word is the driving force behind your why.
My mantra this year is to be mindful, and my word would be mindfulness. My why behind this is so that I can live in the present. Not the past and not the future. I’m tired of endlessly worrying about my future because if I’m constantly doing so, then I’m not fully living in the present. I get super nostalgic during the end of the year, reminiscing about all the memories I had previously. Then I think back on these moments and ask myself if I was truly present. Did I fully live in the moment, or was I too busy scrolling on my phone? Or worrying about what will happen in 6 months?
I also believe that these mantras and statement words can help us to achieve these resolutions or goals we have. Instead of giving yourself these huge goals over the course of the year- breaking them down into smaller achievable tasks is much easier and less overwhelming. Not to mention when we place big goals in our face, we can feel down about ourselves for not achieving them. Questioning our worth, and why we can’t meet them. The truth is you CAN, you need to approach your goals differently.Break goals down into smaller achievable tasks, it is much easier and less overwhelming.Click To Tweet
My rule is- the rule of 3rds, in anything I do. For goals, there is a rule of thirds for myself- good, better and best. When I plan out my blog business I like to use quarterly planning because it breaks up my ultimate goal into smaller tasks. You can do this by quarters, then by weeks, and by days.
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Ultimately everyone can achieve anything, with the proper mindset and proper resources. So even though I may not believe in resolutions, I think we can all agree that at the start of a New Year we want to become better versions of ourselves, treat ourselves better, live kindly, love harder, and seek fufillment in life.
However, we shouldn’t forget about the past year. Don’t dwell in the past, but use the past year as a reminder of how far you’ve come, what you learned, and think of the ways you can carry that into the next year.
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